How did divorce affect your family's culture?

Family culture is an important subject that I feel isn't addressed enough in today's society. Each family have unique way to perceive the world. Each family may have different ways of discipline, different political stances, types of food, or even language. Divorce affects that culture that is created in the family tremendously. I have seen it in my family and also, I've seen it other families. So, for this blog I'm going to leave this to a discussion. How has your divorce changed your family culture? Has divorce affected your decisions to have a family? Has divorce changed your outlook on marriage? 

How has divorce changed your family culture?

To answer my own questions, divorce has completely changed my family dynamics and culture. I'm the youngest out of all my biological siblings so I didn't really see how the family dynamic change in the usual way, but I saw the ripple effects of divorce. For example, my dad remarried, and my stepmom had 6 kids of her own. So, now I have 6 more siblings which included 3 younger sisters, 2 older sisters, and 1 older brother. That alone completely changed how my family operated, I had now 6 siblings that I moved in with after my dad got full custody on top of my four older biological siblings. This flipped my world upside down. I saw a whole new of living from my siblings and the mesh between my biological siblings and my step siblings. So, for example in my previous home before my dad got remarried, we didn't have many chores. We didn't have assignments we just cleaned up what we saw or whatever our mom pointed out. In the new household we had a weekly room rotation when there was a child assigned to a room and cleaned the room every day for a week until we rotated each week. The culture completed shifted in another direction. 

Has divorced affected your decisions in to have a family?

I was always drawn to having a family, but I the negative effects of divorce in my life has somewhat scared me from having a family. I know that I won't repeat what my parents have done and some of siblings, I'm planning on getting it right the first time. But in the back of my mind there are a lot of anxiety and an absence of hope when it comes to marriage. I saw a lot of damage in family, separation, hate and neglect. I don't want that to happen to my family. I know that I will have a family one day, and I hope that I can prepare myself to the fullest to my possibility and I hope that I can be smart when I decide to spend the rest of my life with a person. 

Has divorced changed your outlook on marriage?

Divorce has definitely changed my outlook on marriage. Like I said earlier, I hope I choose right the first time. I know that I can. I have seen a lot of happy marriages in my life, and I really admire all of those people and their dedication to each other. As a kid, I compared my parents' marriage to my friend's parents' marriage a lot. I saw some great things from my friend parent's marriage. I know what I want in a marriage because of this.

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